Tuesday, January 8, 2008

The Epiphany

Don't expect to receive any chatty phone calls from your divorce attorney friends this week. Every year, during the first full week of January, divorce petitions are filed at a level nearly 50% higher than any other week.

The week of the Epiphany.

It seems that long-held resentment, simmering tensions, and excruciating days of holiday togetherness can unravel the threads holding a shaky marriage together. The sheer exhaustion that comes from seemingly endless holiday tasks, cooking and cleaning and shopping and baking and wrapping, can blunt well-honed coping skills. But the worst must be the grinning and greeting, the extended family and the mounds of baggage they bring, and the expectation that the wife perform for days on end wearing a tight bright holiday smile. It's enough to make an unhappily married woman resolve to make a change. 2008 is going to be a better year.


Rachel said...

Thats scary to know! You'd think the resolution would be to work things out.. not quit. LOL

Swiss Miss said...

It makes sense. Women work harder during the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays than they do the rest of the year, and so their feelings of being unappreciated and taken for granted certainly are magnified during this time. Men certainly won't pick up the slack. Women should just go on strike during this time of year. And if they do, hopefully, someday the kids will understand. Hell, I understood around the age of 10, maybe even before. I remember as a young lass urging my mom to just get a divorce, which is funny if you think about it.

I suppose our generation may also have an unrealistic idea concerning the nature of men and marriage and we may not understand how hard life can actually be, which may be why so many of us are unhappy.

Marlee said...

My husband can stay, but do you think I can divorce my mother-in-law after the holidays? LOL

Marie Walden said...

Swiss Miss...I do think that we've tried hard to ignore gender roles and pretend that men and women are the same and should act accordingly. But the truth is that we often have different strengths and weaknesses, and certainly different proclivities.

I find I'm most content when I expect nothing from anyone. Then any help or appreciation I receive makes me feel like maybe it's my birthday.

Marie Walden said...

Funny, Marleeeeeeee!